Boyfriend Wants Bondage Sex, What Should the Girlfriend Do?

A woman revealed recently to Dear Pastor that there is a dispute between her and her boyfriend and she hates to know that this will cause them to break up permanently.

They are both in their mid-20s. Both of them enjoy each other, but her boyfriend loves to have his own way and he takes advice from his parents many times.

One evening while he visited her, and she only had her underwear on. He took out a piece of rope which was not an ordinary rope. She asked him what it was for and he said he planned to use it to ‘spice up’ their relationship.

She told him that he should be the one who would be tied up because she didn’t want to be tied up.

After that whenever they want to make love, he wants to tie her up, but she is not taking any chances. She wanted advice about the issue from Dear Pastor.

The pastor responded and he told her of the risks involved when people engage in bondage sex, said it was not a good thing to be at the mercy of another individual so they can do whatever they want to do with you.

Bondage sex is practiced by some lovers, but if the woman says no, he believes the man should not be insisting.

He didn’t think she should tell her boyfriend to be the first one to be tied up because she will be going against her own will when it is her turn to be tied.

The Pastor revealed that she should help her boyfriend to understand that trust does not mean that you should be totally helpless, and she should remind him of that in a gentle way. 

Adults should always remember that they are at the mercy of anyone who ties them up, so this is not a simple issue.